tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2826920545400132040.post4555491099136305676..comments2017-12-05T05:41:55.224-08:00Comments on Red Headed Stepmoms: An Outsider Finally Feeling InLadyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12978062966637679157noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2826920545400132040.post-1108223011351257042013-02-03T14:35:26.640-08:002013-02-03T14:35:26.640-08:00Thanks, Ladies! I know it may feel like Ruby and ...Thanks, Ladies! I know it may feel like Ruby and I have fallen off the face of the earth, but we're back! A whole year of stories NEED to be shared and I can promise you're in for a ride! Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12978062966637679157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2826920545400132040.post-60258188022386210652012-09-16T08:12:55.961-07:002012-09-16T08:12:55.961-07:00I absolutely love this post and your writing style...I absolutely love this post and your writing style - especially the strikethroughs and the way you bring it all back together. Talent!<br /><br />For me, I knew I "fit" the moment I met them. I had the luxury of them still being so very young (4 and 7, respectively) and never knowing a time where their Dad was really with each of their respective bio moms (he split with both before they were really old enough to have memories).<br /><br />Having said that, though...things have gotten a bit harder in the "I fit" department as time has gone on. In the beginning, I almost felt like they were "wooing" me (kids included). Now that they "have" me, they have relaxed a bit. They usually want to sit next to Dad, hang out with Dad, do this or that with Dad. There are moments, though...when they say they want to sit with me or hang out with me and my heart sings! I can understand, though...I want to sit next to their dad, too. He's pretty awesome.<br /><br />Thanks for sharing!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11518099432958259049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2826920545400132040.post-28836110304993166012011-10-26T14:18:25.748-07:002011-10-26T14:18:25.748-07:00Love it! We play a similar game called WhooNu by C...Love it! We play a similar game called WhooNu by Cranium. I always win. I know my husband and my kids and stepkids from the inside out. As stepmoms, we are the wife and "mom" in the home and because we love and embrace those roles we know our husband and kids/stepkids best.<br /><br />Five years in, I still feel like an outsider at times when it's just my husband and two stepdaughters but I know it has more to do with their "protective nature" of their relationship with dad and not with me personally. I know we share a special bond. <br /><br />I offer the seat next to dad when watching movies or riding rides at the amusement park, etc.... so I don't even have to put him in the position where he has to choose who to sit next to. Plus it says to my stepdaughters that I both value and encourage their close relationship with Dad.<br /><br />I love your story and hope all stepmoms enjoy that same feeling of knowing that regardless of how society wants to look at us or make us feel, we are a very central and loved member of our family.<br /><br />xoxo HeatherHeather (CafeSmom)https://www.blogger.com/profile/15257534504875309701noreply@blogger.com